You know the old glass is half full metaphor.
Well, that applies to the way we talk about and critique others. We can support the strong points someone offers, or we can tear them up.
This is particularly true of teams, communities and other group activities.
“Winners can maintain high aspirations and act generously toward others,” said Kanter. “Losers are more likely to blame others and disdain them as mediocre, creating a culture of finger-pointing and infighting.”