An Open Mid-Life Crisis

Sometimes it is better to just accept where you are at. That way you don’t pop off and do something stupid.

Truth: I feel old. My weekend beard is shot with salt; sadly, there are no kids; everyone I work with in the office is a decade younger than me; and my wife’s in the middle of a very long six+ month stint in the United Arab Emirates.

All of the sudden things are appearing:

  • Red leather pumas, Ferrari edition
  • MacBook Pro
  • Three Chip PDX 10 camera
  • New tattoo (yes, it’s true)
  • I’m writing fiction again
  • And more is in my head… Like this super-phat Ducati Monster!


    Yes, I miss the thrill of watching the looming Shenandoah Blue Ridge develop, then screaming up the mountain on the hairpin curves of Rt. 211 at 60 miles an hour. Whew! It’s been a few years now.

    Of course I could just settle for a Harley:


    I’m not sure a return to motorcycling is a great idea. But when it really started pre-occupying me, I realized that something was up.

    Fact: This seems to be a mid-life crisis. Either that or my creativity is really peaking right now. I’m returning to things that I did when I was single, things that make feel alive. And it’s working. Spring feels vibrant this year like it hasn’t in a long time.

    No, I’m not too young, either. In fact, I’m about to be 36, at the younger side of middle agedom, but still there. Best to embrace it openly.

    I can’t wait for Caitlin to come home from the UAE.

    11 Replies to “An Open Mid-Life Crisis”

    1. Interesting you should post this – was just thinking about mid-life crisisisisis (hate figuring out the plural of that word so I just went with it.

      The way I see it a mid-life crisis is a combination of the freedom (or panic for some) that the realization that we won’t live forever brings coupled with the fact that you have (more than likely) finally reached a level financially where you can actually afford the things you really wanted several years ago but had to forgo for financial reasons.

      All that to say – so long as the “crisis” doesn’t involve decisions or actions that are harmful to you or the ones you love – RUN WITH IT!

    2. have been thinking the same thing, but with less disposable income and more stress… actually, for a better part of today that is the same phrase I fought with – mid life crisis :)

      hope its not the midway point for either of us Geoff. I would like us both to live until 100 so we can hang out more and go riding on that Harley when we are in our 80’s

    3. Jane and Chris: It’s just where we are at. Let’s embrace it! Like Marco said, so long as we don’t harm the ones we love, just do it, have fun, and make it something that’s enjoyable.

    4. I turned 37 in March and feel the same nagging tug of youthful folly…. it’s natural, go with it. Better bikes than a Miata.

    5. That Ducati looks sweet and nimble. And you’ll get cool Euro street cred with it.

      But you really should go with a good old American (but incredibly heavy) Harley. That’ll give you good ol’ boy stret cred! :^)

    6. As someone around your age, I have to advise you to go with a cruiser if you do buy a bike. Those of us in our late 30s are not meant to be hunched over a sport bike for any length of time — it may look cool but it’s hella uncomfortable! I have a humble Honda Shadow Spirit 750, so I’m not quite in your league, but I submit it’s still a rockin’ bike. I love it.

    7. Dear Geoff. Mid-life begins its cycle at 42. And, honey, it’s a doozey, but delightful in its own crazy way. No, you’re not in mid-life at all. Eat better. Exercise in a way that’s meaningful to you. Cuz if you do get that bike, you’ll need to be in great shape to ride it well and come off it not soar and achey. :-)

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